Learning lessons is hard sometimes.

I do not like making mistakes and I especially do not like making mistakes when they negatively affect someone else. To the best of my ability, for the past several years, I’ve been practicing a spiritual process scrutinizing faulty thinking and motives behind my actions. 

Being the human that I am, I am prone to cause harm, both inadvertently and advertently. I have long since come to know, intellectually, that I’m not striving for perfection through this work (though my ego hasn’t quite caught on, yet) – but rather striving for awareness, and healing harm I cause – which many times proves to be an imperfect affair in and of itself.

Recent circumstances have led me to an uncomfortable self-awareness. It’s given me pause to absorb the way I say things, especially to family, when I have a beef with them. My entrepreneur brother once told me a common technique used in business. I believe he called it the ‘sandwich’: you say something positive, insert the correctional comment in a nonconfrontational way – then say something positive in closing. I feel humbled to own the more times than not I jump right to the correctional comment in a confrontational way!

Learning lessons is hard sometimes.